Why You Are Not Married

I came across a very interesting article on huffingtonpost.com. Please take a read and comment with your thoughts.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tracy-mcmillan/why-youre-not-married_b_822088.html


Happy Friday,

Clutch

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A GOOD MARRIAGE

After being happily married for 33 years, Dr. Phil shares some of his thoughts about what makes a marriage work:


(From drphil.com)

 The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.

 You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.

 If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.

 Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?

 There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.

 Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.

 You don't fix things by fixing your partner.

 Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.

 You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.

 Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.

 You teach people how to treat you. You can renegotiate the rules.




Happy Friday,

Clutch


Real Life, Real Talk, Real Women