Getting the realtionship you want

While sitting having dinner with a couple of friends we started to converse about a friend that seems to fall into relationships with guys for all the wrong reasons. She is attractive although I don’t think she believes it. It appears that she is always the one compromising what she needs in a relationship to have a man in her life. We as women tend to negotiate when it comes to our needs. Does it have to be that way?

Believe me I understand that a relationship should be give and take but women tend to do the majority of the giving. This friend jumps from one unfulfilling relationship to another. The first guy that I recall her dating treated her as a meantime girl. After that she was in a relationship with a guy that classified them as friends but she was contemplating moving in with him. What the hell! Whenever he wasn’t in a “real relationship” he would call on her. She took her self though much heartache on that one because in the end he married someone else.

How do we get women to value themselves more than that? I have some ideas on that one. Everyone wants to be loved and needed, me included. A woman should never sacrifice her needs and wants for that of a man. Any man worth having or loving would not want you to do that. If you find that you can’t rely on him for at least some emotional support, then what do you need him for.

Women if you want a relationship then you should ask for that and believe that you deserve that. Now I know that some of us out there are just looking to have some fun and that is cool but you need to make sure what ever those needs are they are communicated. If you want a relationship then the guy you are dealing must want the same thing. If he starts off saying that is what he wants, then you need to make sure that you allow enough time in the relationship to see if that is genuine. Men will tell us what ever we want to hear to get us to play horizontally. Again if you are just looking for a good time then go for it, but if you want a relationship going to the bedroom quickly is not the answer.

Let’s face it; men will always get what they need from us so we need to demand what we need from them.


Much Love

Chanel

Real Life, Real Talk, Real Women