One thing for certain, we all come from a man and a woman. Sometimes, we are blessed to have two parents, single parents, grandparents, siblings, etc to love us unconditionally. Other times, we are not so fortunate and the family you are born into can be detrimental to you.
For those times, I say that as hard as it may be, you have to cut them loose and go and build yourself a family. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but you have to ask yourself, what do you get out of the relationship? You don’t have to reward negative behavior. If someone doesn’t treat you good, you don’t have to put up with it, just because they are family. Have positive relationships in your life that grow and nurture you on all levels.
In life some of the best families are made up of people you meet and collect along this journey called life. Although, I have a great family and hope that I am providing a great nuclear family component for our daughter. Along the way, I have been blessed to have built a “Village” that counts several amazing people as friends. We have Guncles (gay uncles) that are listed on our daughter’s emergency list at school. Our best friends are Jewish and they along with their family, treat our daughter as one of their own. She spends every Thursday night with them, so we can have date night. At one time, our daughter wanted to hyphenate her name to ours and theirs.
Most recently, I have welcomed two co-workers to my village as sisters. We have only known each other 6 months, but these are amazing women and we have so completely bonded through our shared and unshared life experiences that we are truly kindred spirits. This does not discount the rest of my village, but is rather a testament to being able to find people that love you, agree or disagree with you, but mainly just want the best for you. It can be through bloodline or not. Just build a village and family that support you in all of your endeavors. Get rid of those that just want to tear you down and foster a circle of negativity.
If anyone has built an amazing village, please write and tell me about it. I would love to hear how you have made your friends your family.
Peace and Love,
Sandals.
Real Life, Real Talk, Real Women
Monday, September 28, 2009
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