DEALING WITH THE UNKNOWN

What do you do when you find out that something happened to your child that you weren’t told about? This is hard to deal with for any parent. What do you say to your child or how do you interact with them.

If a parent learns that a child is being touched inappropriately how should they react? I know that the first reaction is rage, but we as parents need to stay focused. Our attention needs to be on the initial needs of the child. As parents we need to take that communication and reassure our child that the world is not a horrible place but there are some unkind people in it.

Mothers with our female children especially, we need to make sure that they are heard. We should not take their comments lightly. I know as our young women mature, there are times when they may say things to get our attention or as a tool to get a man out of our lives that they may not like for some reason or another but it should not be brushed off lightly. What happens when the person in question is a family member? Our children need to know that is ok to speak no matter who it is.

So many women walk around with hurt and anger from their childhoods and are unable to live happy healthy lives because of this pain. It is our responsibility to make sure that our young women become functioning adults. Mothers we need to encourage both our young women and young men to speak out when they have been touched inappropriately.

Our biggest fear as parents is that someone will hurt our children and we can’t protect them. With our society in the state it is in now, our children have to fight a lot of things and dealing with the pain that comes along with being molested is far reaching.

The best things we can do for our children is to make them aware that there are good people out there as well as bad. We have to make sure that they are not afraid to speak out when bad stuff happens. Let them know that speaking out gives them a power that can never be taken away.
I wish I had spoken out as a child but my parents never spoke about topics like this. As a child I thought that it is something that was suppose to happen. It was not until I was an adult that I spoke out on it, and by that time the predator was close to death. I did tell my immediate family but other members were never told.

I just want to leave you with this comment. Please speak to your children and pay attention to them. I know they can be a chore at times, but we have to let them know that we are always on their side in times of turmoil.

MUCH LOVE

Chanel

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