Why does one continue to remain in a romantic relationship that has no potential or future?
When are we as women going to finally acknowledge and accept our self worth and true value?
I ask this question because I know a 16 year old girl who is smart, outgoing, and attractive. She is dating a young man who during their relationship gave her a sexually transmitted disease, ended their relationship (right before prom), and spread very disparaging rumors about her. Just recently he realized the errors of his ways and apologized and they are now once again dating.
I have to admit that I was once involved in a relationship where despite the lack of respect and the lack of acknowledgment that I received throughout the entire four years long relationship, I continued on, thinking that just maybe one day he would actually acknowledge and appreciate who I am and what I had to offer as partner. Well, the day never came. I really feel as if I have a decent level of confidence and I think that I am an intelligent individual. So, why on God's green earth did I stay so long?
Maybe it is because we as women are constantly bombarded with songs like “Stand by your Man”, and images of wives standing next to her husband during a press conference, while he explains why he had an affair with a much younger women and/or why he fathered a child outside his marriage. Do we as women continue in the relationship because we truly love that person or do we not want to admit failure?
So my question: How do we as women remind ourselves of our true self worth and encourage each other to do the same? And when or/ if the time comes, will we have the strength to let go of a dead end relationship with out any self doubt or regret?
Looking for answers,
Hobo Bag.
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Hobo Bag, great point! I think that alot of us really do not want to admit the failure in a relationship and we will put up with ALOT! I think it's because it is our nature to nurture and help things to grow. I wish your 16 year old friend much success and I pray that she is smart enough to lean on the experience of others to help her through.
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ReplyDeleteHobo Bag...forgot to mention this in my previous comment...maybe some of your answers will come in the new fall tv schedule. There is a new show debuting, The Good Wife (http://www.cbs.com/primetime/the_good_wife/). It seems like it might be a very positive show and might help to shed some light on this subject.
ReplyDeleteGirlfriends, it is definitely not easy to remember all the time. You have to have honor for self in order to accept it. We have all been there. It is in most women spirits to nuture and care for others so we do, and forget about ourselves. For me having my daughter was a turning point for me to give up my relationship. Because I felt that she deserved to have a mother that was sure enough with herself to kiss him bye bye and never look back. In fairness she saved me from years of heartbreak.
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