What's In Your Hand?

“You’ve gotta know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away, know when to run”

This is how I can best describe this past weekend. The experience was four fold.

I saw people that I hate that I lost contact with and would enjoy staying in touch with, going forward; (hold em).

I saw people that I had lost contact with and the experience solidified that we are now on a different life path; (fold em).

I saw people that had not grown up despite what their birth certificate said; envious of beautiful friendships that have stood the test of time and showing their envy through comments, stares, and phony smiles; (walk away).

Lastly, I saw people that are into the same stuff that we did back in the day. Talking loud, and saying nothing. From those, your girl had to run!

All in all the experience was great. I had a ton of fun, lots of laughs, and memories beyond measure.

This brought some specific thoughts to mind about friends, acquaintances, and life in general.

Here are a few things to consider when establishing, maintaining, and reigniting friendships. This is an excerpt from a spoken word that I received.

“As you grow, your friendships will change.
Some of your friends will not want you to go on.
They will want you to stay where they are.”

I write this to say at no time should you let anyone try to make a mockery of your choices in life. You should never have to apologize for the successes that you have acquired nor should you look down upon those that did not choose the path that you did.

It is amazing that within our own circles we can feel that we have accomplished much in this world until we cross paths with someone that may appear to be doing just a little bit better.

Yes we all have our flaws, we all have differences of opinion, we all have hang ups. But at the end of the day, this is just a new and improved version of the crab in the barrel syndrome.

Celebrating the growth of others can only help you grow. These are the folks that we need to tap into to get that needed jolt of electricity.

Don’t spend your life disliking folk for no good reason. It is adding years to their lives and subtracting from yours!

What does your hand look like right now? Are you on the verge of throwing in your hand?

Stack your deck and get in the game. Nobody likes to have the losing hand and everybody wants to hold the trump card.

WORDS TO THE WISE

Hold on to your trump cards (good friends and aquaintenances), trade in the cards that don’t fit your strategy to win (fold em), disconnect from the negative (walk away) and run like hell from the Jokers.


Check out your hand! Be a GAMBLER!


Mary Jane


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